Dec 30 2009 penultimate day of the year 2009, no nothing special about this day nor am I going to talk about the high’s and low’s about the year or may be I will :). Those three years in the industry has become nearly six years and finally I made the move and yet about a month to go, talk about letting go the bad habits. Anyways that’s not the only countdown I am counting to finish…
So what have been I upto? Well I got inspired by the famous and controversial Mystery blog (http://my-fairest-lady.blogspot.com/) and got married and its Day 33 of my married life and much to the story in the mystery blog the distant relationship continues and counting down till Jan 23rd 2010. Sad that the mystery blog has been taken away due to unforeseen technical issues… long live “the Guy” and “the Gal”.
So as the days near for staying together in the far far away location, I try to learn to be the prefect husband now what do I do ?. Here is what I am going to do exactly, after a bit of googling and getting the key notes from the experts adding that to my own special touch to the researched points i have it all and to be the perfect husband you should...
- Listen to her. Nod head and throw in a few "uh-huhs" for the effect – so that she feels that I am really hearing to what she's saying, which is anyway not of my interest because all the talk comes only when you are about to sleep if you know what I mean *wink*.
- Learn to empathize. Say things like “I totally understand! I am with you baby! Oh yeah that’s wonderful idea! Make head and eye gestures that makes her feel you understand! Yeah that gal on the rail is totally a b I t c H(hot ones esp). Give a hug/peck right after you say that and then make your move you know for what *wink*
- Be affectionate. Many women love physical gestures such as cuddles and touching their hair (which obviously means one thing and one thing only to men). Ask her about her day and repeat the “listen to her”
- Prioritize Her. Let her know she matters in your own special way (aha that’s not hard is it). Keep saying “You are the Best! I am so proud of you! That looks really good on you (if she is staring too much in the mirror) make breakfast on weekends so that you get the whole day(Oh YES!!), Her family is the best and most adorable any day and when on phone you talk to her family more than she does(trust me this does wonders). Like her friends but only to tell how much you like your wife (careful!)
- Be Responsible. Whether many women will admit this, most want a man they can count on across the board - whether it be behaviour, finances or other decision making. This is the least important point, ignored! If anything alien... Just Listen and say i was exactly thinking of the same!continue that with you can read my mind... you took the words out of my mouth...
- Give Her a Break. The woman needs some "me time" once in a while. Offer to take them while she gets a pedicure or goes to lunch with her friends one weekend or ask her to take the day off and be a couch potato. Once you do that she would return the favor back*chuckles*.
These are some of the basic things for the first few months one should follow and the second phase of steps is completely different which i will enlighten in the due course. Remember the famous quote "In marriage one is always correct and the other one is husband" that should be the motto to be perfect while you get things done the way you want it there is no harm in being called the other one...*evil grin*
Now more on a serious note a lot of you may agree or disagree but to tell you frankly I am just curious how my life would be. All one can say is if only it could be written before being lived :)
Coming soon will be a photo blog i.e of the married life once the experience starts hopefully the still single among my friends would get a pretty good lesson out of this. Don’t wish me luck… I know this is going to work, Totally !!!
Adios
